Yet another year is coming to an end signalling the beginning of another one. I look outside the window to try and see exactly what I have achieved the last 365 days. Coincidentally, last year a time like this I was at that window trying to formulate a list of resolutions that I was targeting to achieve this year sadly the notebook where I penned them down got lost somewhere along the way. Well a couple of things I have achieved but not in the way I thought would work out for me. Indeed life has a way of bringing surprises every time. Regardless of all the times I have failed this year, there is one lesson that I am looking to carry through this coming year and for the rest of my life.
Baby, just live a little. Many times we focus too much on what the society expects us to do with our lives we seldom take some time out to figure out what it is we want for ourselves. I was hell-bent on making people around me so comfortable that without knowing I turned into a people pleaser. Luckily this year I realised that the same people will be there to cheer you on whenever what you are doing is benefiting them or making them happy but the moment that ceases you no longer have a cheering squad on your race track of life.
It is a sad reality that these same people will be absent when you are crying yourself to sleep because you are rarely happy. This year has taught me to leave all these structures behind me and to just focus on me; I have learned that in order to be genuinely happy you have got to be just a little bit selfish. You have got to think more about yourself and where you want to go in your life. The older I grow the more I realise that I don’t actually need to be a people pleaser so as to make friends. It is clear that in life there are seasonal friends and there are those who are for a life-time. Once you are aware of this then you know that those who are meant to stay in your life will stay regardless of the season that you are at hence just live a little.
This year looks promising; I am so excited because I have a gut feeling that it is going to be a good year. I have decided that whenever I feel exhausted I will just take some time off and just rest. Rest is divine and in this 21st century that is something that we always forget. I will have moments when I just have my quiet time and just think about what I want to do and where God wants me to go. He alone has my best interests at heart. I laugh more, I love more, I dream more, I dance more, I travel more, I talk louder.
I have realised that unless I love myself and put myself first nobody else will do that for me. Hence this year I am coming in with no resolutions because I want to do things a bit differently. That said my mantra for the whole year will just be spread your wings fly and always remember to live.
Written By: Sharon Kagugi